Sunday, February 24, 2019 - Better Parents & Better Children
Pastor Roger C. Marcos
February 24, 2019
The was a quotation by John Wesley, Do all the good you can, by all the means you can, in all the ways you can, at all the times you can, to all the people you can, as long as ever you can.
Anyone wanting to be a BETTER PARENTS, And BE A BETTER SONS/DAUTHERS right? To be honest if we can’t be better PARENTS/CHILDREN HOW CAN WE HAVE.a better family?
How can we have a healthy church? Did you hear me church?
Be a better Parents, in order to have a better children’s, which I believe that children are totally entrusted to parents for a certain year and in vice versa.
TEXT: Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a real blessing. Ps. 127:3 GNT
The Tremendous Responsibility: “What kind of child will this be?” Luke 1:66
PARENTS Must Provide for the material and spiritual welfare of their children. They must love their children in a responsible manner and provide for their healthy growth. They must inspire their children by their own exemplary life and must never neglect to correct their faults. Parents are responsible to provide the necessary food, clothing, shelter and medical care insofar as they are able.
Being a parent comes with a multitude of responsibilities and duties. Of course, you want your children to grow up to be healthy, happy and exceptional adults, but for that to happen your children need to be properly cared for, guided, loved, disciplined, taught and encouraged along the way.
What Is At Stake?
- Soul of the Child
- Soul of the parents
Parents: Let us sacrifice our today so that our children can have a better tomorrow.
Being a parent isn't a very easy job. It is in fact one of the most provoking yet emotionally and physically challenging opportunities in life. Once you are a parent, you are stuck in it for life and there's no turning back. We would never know how difficult it is being a parent until we actually become one. From my point of view as a child, I could already feel the frustration that my parents go through and imagine how it's like to be one.
From a newborn baby all the way through adulthood, our parents have gladly raised us in spite of all the faults and mistakes we make. They provide us with unconditional love. Parents have a tremendous responsibility in the development throughout a child's life and assurance in children's needs. It is indeed an extremely difficult duty because it requires many different roles.
Throughout the day, a parent jumps from being a child's manager, to being her assistant, teacher, friend, and adviser
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Pro. 22:6
How to Raise a Child - What He will be as an adult.
To be in your children’s memories tomorrow you have to be in their lives today.
"We are what we repeatedly do," said Aristotle. "Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit." It's true, whether we're talking about ourselves our children.
Child experts tell us that by age 3, a child’s pattern for life has been nearly set in concrete, so it’s a great idea to begin early in training up children in the Lord for the purpose. “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it” Proverbs 22:6 This doesn’t mean that if you train up a child in the ways of God that they won’t depart from it as an adult but it’s more likely that they won’t. To fail to do so would turn this proverb into the opposite result; “If you don’t train up a child in the way he or she should go and he or she will surely depart from it.”
God in the Conversation
When parents consistently speak about God and His desire for us to live in obedience, children will begin to understand that they will reap consequences for their actions if they depart from obeying the Lord. In the Old Testament, parents were told,
“You shall teach them to your children, talking of them when you are sitting in your house, and when you are walking by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise” Deuteronomy 11:19
which means that if you are often speaking about God when they get up, during the day, and when they lie down at night, it will become instilled in them by the time they’re an adult.
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Pr. 22:6
Train up: - Mold & Shape
Child: From infant to marriageable age While still under your roof!
In the Way: God Fearing / Child’s Way
Result: Impacts rest of his life.
I. Better Parents - good example in your children in everything.
A. Teach - Instruction
What: Saturate them with Word (Deut. 6:1-9) You have a responsibility as a parent.
Throughout Scripture, God is pretty clear about the responsibility He places in the hands of parents. None is more clear than Deuteronomy 6:6-7: “These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.
Who:
1. Fathers are responsible (Eph. 6:1-4) - 1 Children, it is your Christian duty to[a] obey your parents, for this is the right thing to do. 2 “Respect your father and mother” is the first commandment that has a promise added: 3 “so that all may go well with you, and you may live a long time in the land.”
4 Parents, do not treat your children in such a way as to make them angry. Instead, raise them with Christian discipline and instruction.
Pr. 23:22 Listen to your father; without him you would not exist. When your mother is old, show her your appreciation.
2. Mothers should teach (2 Tim. 1:5; 3:15) 5 I remember the sincere faith you have, the kind of faith that your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice also had. I am sure that you have it also.
15 and you remember that ever since you were a child, you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to give you the wisdom that leads to salvation through faith in Christ Jesus.
B. Show - Example.
Examples Are Powerful
- Live Right - Children Blessed (Prov. 20:7)- 7 Children are fortunate if they have a father who is honest and does what is right.
- Follow what see (Ezek. 16:44) 44 The Lord said, “People will use this proverb about you, Jerusalem: ‘Like mother, like daughter.’
Teach Them To Work.- Take out garbage, Mow the lawn, do dishes, shovel the snow- they're not just ways to make your life easier, they're ways to make your kids' lives better, too. they're not just ways to make your life easier, they're ways to make your kids' lives better, too.
II. Better Children.
children must love their parents and must never do anything that will hurt their feelings. You must respect them , pay them due reverence and honour, speak and act with proper deference, accept their corrections readily, consult them and seek their advice regarding important decisions. Children must be grateful to their parents, try to please and help them, and support them in need. SPECIALLY when times come.
A. Listen To Parents. Are you listening to them..IF NOT IM TELLING YOU WHEN YOU HAVE A FAMILY YOUR CHILDREN WILL NOT LISTEN TO YOU EITHER..MARK MY WORDS.
8 My Child, Pay Attention to what your Father and Mother tell you. Proverbs 1:8 GNT
NIV. Listen my son to your father instruction and do not forsake your mother teaching
That child is blessed who is devoted to his parent’s words. A child who gratifies his parents is rare. Blessed is that birth whose parents rejoice on hearing of his good deeds.
Why you should listen to your parents
George Washington a man who ruled American once said that the greatest teacher he ever had was his mother. There are many reasons why you should always listen to your parents. Parents know us better than anyone. No one has a better opportunity to know what you need than your parents. They look after you as you grow; they fed you, cloth you, and changed your diapers.
Even the holly bible in the book of Ephesians 6:1-3 "1 says, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.”
Parents want to give advice all the time because they want to protect you from making the mistakes they made or that someone they know made.
B. Failure to Listen - Stray Prov. 19:27.
27 My child, when you stop learning, you will soon neglect what you already know.
To make your parents happy, you do not have to be a grade ‘A’ student, the captain of you team or a great person in this world. Love your parents and do not look down on them. Only the foolish and immature despise the advice of their parents. “Only a fool despises a parent's discipline; whoever learns from correction is wise, Says the Bible.
C. Honoring Your Parents. (when you honor your parents the more they healthy)
Respect. Prov. 23:22; 31:28
22 Listen to your father; without him you would not exist. When your mother is old, show her your appreciation.
Listen to your father, who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old. NIV.---
Her Children Stand and Bless her. Her Husband Praises her:
Caring. 1 Tim. 5:4, 16; Exo. 20:12
4 But if a widow has children or grandchildren, they should learn first to carry out their religious duties toward their own family and in this way repay their parents and grandparents, because that is what pleases God.
16 If a woman who is a believer has relatives who are widows, she must take care of them and not put the responsibility on the church. Then the church can care for the widows who are truly alone.
III. Better Families.
A. God is Feared Word is Honored.
> Children taught to “fear God” Psa. 34:11 11 Sons and daughters, come and listen and let me teach you the importance of trusting and fearing the Lord. LT.
NIV-Come, my children, listen to me; I will teach you the fear of the Lord.
> Children remember creator. Ecc. 12:1
> Each member of family - own faith, own convictions, give account of self.
Conclusion:
Better Parents & Better Children- Better Families
“I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth” - 3 John 4
15 But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.” Joshua 24:15